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Surviving the Holidays During a Divorce

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With the holidays approaching, individuals may not feel as jolly as usual if they are in the midst of a separation or divorce. However, the holidays can still be enjoyable by following the tips below.

Put Your Children and Yourself First

No matter how amicable the separation may be, it's important to put your needs and your children's needs first. Every decision during a divorce should be made with the children's best interests in mind.

Of course, this isn't always easy. Parents going through a divorce are often consumed with their own emotions and may be unable to see things from their child's perspective. It's important to try to put these feelings aside and really think about what would be best for the children involved.

Avoid Arguing in Front of Your Children

Divorce can be a trying time for everyone involved, but keeping the peace in front of the kids is essential. Arguing and bickering in front of your children will only upset and confuse them, especially during the holidays. If there are disagreements, try to save them for when the kids are not around.

It's also important to avoid saying negative things about the other parent in front of your kids. This can be difficult, especially if there are hard feelings, but it's important to remember that the kids still love and respect both parents. Speaking badly about one parent will only make the kids feel caught in the middle and torn between two people they love.

Socialize With Friends and Family

Divorce can be a very isolating experience. It's important to reach out to your friends and family for support during this challenging time. They can provide a much-needed shoulder to cry on and a listening ear when you need to vent.

Additionally, spending time with loved ones can help take your mind off of the divorce and help you remember there is still good in the world. Keeping up with your hobbies and interests is critical as they can provide a much-needed distraction from the divorce proceedings.

Do Something For Yourself

Putting your happiness in the forefront is critical for your mental health during this stressful time. Do something that makes you happy, whether it's going out with friends, working out, reading a book, or anything similar. Taking some time for yourself will help you recharge and make you more focused when you need to make key decisions.

Do Something For Someone Else

Even during a divorce, it's important to remember that other people in the world are going through tough times as well. Doing something nice for someone, such as being a Secret Santa, volunteering at a soup kitchen., or donating money to a worthy cause, can help you feel good and remind you that you're not alone.

Recognizing Being Grateful

Make a list of things you're grateful for, whether it's your health, friends, or job. Reminding yourself of the good things in your life can help you get through the tough times.

Maintain Traditions You're Comfortable With

Going through a divorce or separation can be disruptive to normal life. However, it's important to try to maintain some sense of normalcy and uphold traditions as much as possible. This can provide a sense of stability for kids during a time when everything else in their lives is changing.

Of course, this isn't always possible; divorce can sometimes mean starting new traditions. However, if there are traditions that can be maintained, it's important to do so. This will help the kids feel like not everything in their lives has been turned upside down.

Peterson White, LLP is Here For You

There are many emotions surrounding the holidays and going through a divorce can add more stress and worry on top of other feelings. Let Peterson White, LLP take some of your worries away about this process. Our experienced family law attorneys are ready to help you and walk you through the next steps. Contact us online or by phone so we can start working together. (855) 919-4124