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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

Hands of a parent upset with her co-parent

Individuals co-parenting with someone with narcissistic traits may feel a range of negative emotions. They may feel like they are constantly walking on eggshells and that their ex never takes responsibility for their actions. This can lead to a variety of issues for both parents and their children.

What is a Narcissist?

A narcissist is someone best described as excessively self-involved. They are obsessed with themselves and their needs and often lack empathy for others. If a parent is co-parenting with a narcissist, they may find that their ex is always trying to control the situation and the conversation. The co-parent may also constantly try to one-up the other parent or put them down emotionally.

Tips for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

Parents must remember that they are not responsible for their ex’s behavior. A narcissist’s attitude typically does not change, and it’s not the other parent’s job to do so. However, there are some things that parents can do to make the situation more manageable.

  • Try to avoid arguing with the other parent whenever possible. If something does need to be discussed, the parent should try to do so calmly and rationally.
  • Don’t take their bait. If a co-parent is constantly trying to start arguments or get a rise from the other parent, it’s best not to engage with them.
  • Keep communication as civil as possible. This means no name-calling or personal attacks.
  • Take care of yourself mentally and emotionally. For rational parents, this can be difficult when dealing with a narcissist, but it is important to remember that they need to take care of themself first and foremost.

Peterson White, LLP Can Help You Handle a Narcissistic Co-Parent

If you struggle to co-parent with a narcissist, it is beneficial to seek guidance from an experienced family law attorney. The dedicated team at Peterson White, LLP can help you navigate this difficult situation and protect your rights. Start working with our family law group today by scheduling a consultation. (855) 919-4124